Evolutionarily speaking, men should be attracted to women with fat on their bodies (breasts, hips especially), as it signals to them that the woman is healthy enough to carry a child and nurse that child. However, because medicine, science, and economics play a stronger hand in the health and well-being of a child than ever before, those signals are not as important.
The result is that society often dictates to men (and women) what is attractive. Instead of health and well-being being attractive, attractiveness is mainly judged by aesthetics now. Media has been telling men what they should feel is sexy in various cycles that waiver between Flappers and burlesque, Twiggy and Tyra. I'd even go so far as to say that media, society, and peer pressure are overriding what many men feel is attractive to them. In other words, they might innately feel attracted to a curvier woman, but they don't want to be judged as unsuccessful because they can't attract a lithe model-like woman (I hope you're thinking about the movie American Psycho and the business cards...). And as anecdotal evidence -- I know so many men that prefer to have sex with a woman with "a little something extra" versus a thin girl (and again, this is purely aesthetics, nothing about personality) but they won't date the girl with junk in the trunk.
Kate Winselt and Christina Hendricks. Christina Hendricks is a size 14. Yep. Size 14. (Same size I am, different measurements-- she is 36-32-36). And she is a bona fide sex symbol. She didn't need to appear on the cover of New York to give men permission to lust for her, she gave it to them herself:
"All those times I had agents who were like, 'You have to lose some weight,' and all of a sudden, people are celebrating it," she told Health. "It's like: 'Oh, thank you! Thank you for letting me be me.'"So this post is going to act as a few things:
"I was having cappuccinos every day!" she told the magazine. "I would take my clothes off in front of the mirror and be like, 'Oh, I look like a woman.' And I felt beautiful, and I never tried to lose it, 'cause I loved it."
1. Kudos to the women who feel comfortable in the skin. Your sexiness is undeniable.
2. Kudos to those (friends, lovers, admirers, photographers, artists, etc.) who love women who are comfortable in their skin.
3. My empathy for any and all women (and men) who do not feel comfortable in their skin. I hope you find the joy of your body soon. You are beautiful just as you are.
4. And a huge FUCK YOU to anyone who tries to put me or anyone else down for loving the body they have. No matter your size, you have the abilty to love your body. Do yourself a favor and be generous to yourself.