Who do you want to be today?
Every day we have a chance to make new choices and decide who we want to be. We can stay on the path we're on, turn around and run away screaming, or try a new approach.
And yet somehow we always feel locked into our identity, completely forgetting how forgiving our sense of self/identity can be or that we lived through the formation of our identities in the first place (are you the same person you were in your HS yearbook?). Just think about the person who can't see past their weight. Think about how stuck they are in that identity.
We forget that our identities are as flexible ("characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different, or changing requirements") as they are malleable ("able to be hammered or pressed permanently out of shape without breaking or cracking") as they are resilient ("able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions").
The catch is that it requires some extraordinary vision and a leap of faith: in order to take on a new identity, we have to know how we want to look and have the courage to slough off our old identity (our armor) long enough to try on a new one.
I tweeted the other day:
I want to be that person. I really do. I envision that person doesn't feel the same kind of struggle that I feel.
So I'm going to try and take my own advice and (1) envision what it would be like to live that life and (2) have the confidence that if I act like that person that I'll still be okay, still be me.
My wanting to be a pretty pretty princess will just have to wait until I slay this dragon.