For a while I've been using the #WTFOkCupid hash tag to document some of my frustration with the kind of guys that I attract via online...
For a while I've been using the #WTFOkCupid hash tag to document some of my frustration with the kind of guys that I attract via online dating. (I thought about consolidating my experiences with Match as well as OkCupid under the #FGvWDates hashtag, but then other people started using #WTFOkCupid to share some of their interesting messages. Hilarity ensued.)
At first, I was considerate -- blurring out the faces and/or screennames of the offenders, and then I figured that if they didn't care about how they presented themselves to me, I wouldn't care about protecting their reputations. I should be careful to note, that I don't need anyone to defend me or attack the men. I can take care of myself, but I just want to defend myself that I'm not the only reason that I'm single.
I've gotten lots of dating advice lately about my standards (the things I need or want out of a partner, and how flexible I am regarding those needs/wants) my expectations (how a man presents himself, how he reveals himself to either meet or not meet certain standards), and how to present myself (apparently I'm intimidating). My expectations are pretty low and generally are about etiquette -- (1) don't be a jerk, (2) respect me and my time, and (3) be who you say you are. I've discussed my standards before, and by-in-large I think I'm pretty flexible (except re smoking cause it's gross). Most of them have to do with a man's character. I do have some aesthetic preferences, but there's one I'm particularly inflexible about -- height. I like a guy that's taller than I am.
These jerkwads (yep, there's more than one) aren't the only ones that are telling me that I need to manage my expectations (um, they're as low as they get) and reconsider my standards (which again, are pretty flexible and are pretty understandable, imho). To this I say