FGvW Reviews: Down Size, Part 14:09:00 PM
Disclaimer : Back in July 2013, Professor Ted Spiker sent me an email asking to interview me in connection with a book that he was workin...
Disclaimer: Back in July 2013, Professor Ted Spiker sent me an email asking to interview me in connection with a book that he was working on. He has come across FatGirlvsWorld and wanted to chat about some of my experiences. Our email correspondence went on for a little bit. In January 2014, he showed me the first draft of how he was going to weave my words into his book. It wasn't until Dacia showed sent me a tweet that I realized that the book had been published (and that many of my friends had also been interviewed (**waves to Dacia and Tina**). My review is not sponsored (i.e, I purchased my own copy of the book and was not compensated for my time/thoughts) and as always, unfiltered.
The book is divided into three parts, and so I'm going to do my review in three parts because there's a lot to go through. However, lots of the chapters are interrelated (such as 1. Foundation and 5. Inspection) Up first?
Part 1: Up Size:
As a rule, I kinda hate snooty, didactic weight loss/health gain books -- the ones that start to the tune of "I am a doctor! Do what I tell you to do!" or "I did it! Do exactly what I did!" or even worse -- "I have no business writing this book. I have no experience or expertise. but weight loss is a multi-billion dollar industry, so here's a book."
Down Size is none of these. Ted Spiker has been in the trenches with us (underneath a pile of tacos, perhaps) and knows that if weight loss were an easy thing, we'd all be doing it. But it's complex and confusing. It's not a straight line. The book weave humor, anecdote, and science into a narrative that shows how to tune out the extraneous and how to tune in to the important stuff that happens along the way.
1. Foundation — Spiker discusses how physiology (biology) and psychology are expressed in our bodies both in the past and in the present. This is our foundation. "[F]oundation isn't about blame." That's a heavy concept for a lot of people (myself included). This is one of those "Do Not Pass Go; Do Not Collect $200" moments: In order to make any lasting change in our life, we have to investigate how we arrived at the person we currently are, we have to go beyond the fact that we are overweight and figure out why that is. It's more than just having the knowledge. As a health/fitness writer, Spiker had access to all kinds of knowledge and resources, but there was a gap between the knowledge and the application. Our bodies are magnificent machines that prefer a degree of homeostasis. When we gain (excessive) weight, there's a disruption either in our physiology/biology or our psychology (or you're pregnant). Being able to pinpoint that reason is like finding a key to unlocking the doors that have kept us from who we want to be.
2. Temptation — **puts down the potato chips to write this** Remember how I said above that weight loss/health gain isn't a straight line? In this chapter, Spiker talks about all the gravitational forces that pull us away from that line, and more importantly, how to develop strategies to right ourselves. In this clip from the Dr. Oz Show, he talks about one of his strategies: If/Then. Spiker shows that it's not about willpower, but more about creating strategies for upholding the goals you have.
3. Frustration — (where my head/heart/body is currently). Spiker quotes his friend, Doug Newburg with a variation on the old adage about the definition of insanity, "If it's not working, then why do you keep doing the same thing?" When we're frustrated (i.e., stressed) we often revert to what we know. In the case of people who are overweight/obese, "what we know" is often what got us to where we are in the first place. But if we're frustrated by not getting results, we have to change the process and the beliefs that conveyed us to where we stand. Often this means we need to take a step back, re-assess, and re-calibrate. In my world, that usually means going back to what makes me happy -- or rather, what relieves the judgment and frustration.
4. Humiliation — Spiker points out that "[s]hame is internal; humiliation exposes you to the world." writes "and that when we experience humiliation, we have two choices: "crumple or push on." In other words, humiliation is outside force trying to divorce us from our sense of place in the world as well as our sense of self. Spiker asks us to examine how we respond in those moments all the while sharing some of his humiliating moments.