About Me Health
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way.3:58:00 AM
At one point during "Who Framed Roger Rabbit," Jessica Rabbit says "You don't know how hard it is being a woman, looking ...
I'm not Jessica Rabbit, but sometimes I do hear the snare and bass drum when I walk. Sometimes I even hear a string bass or saxaphone.
My swagger doesn't come from how I look or my measurements. My inner sexiness comes from knowing my strengths, such as my sharp wit and playful coyness as well as my physical strength (I'm a tough cookie) and adventurous attitude.
Yet there is one thing, more than anything else, that makes feeling sexy damn near impossible (as experienced over the past 15 years) -- and that is my litany of back/neck injuries. I can feel sexy with a sprained ankle, sexy through a sinus infection, or even sexy with a zit on my face. I just can't feel the va va voom while I'm dealing with my spine injuries.
I can shake most of the negative feelings associated with my injuries -- such as "it sucks not being able to lift weights" or "I hate not being able to box" -- but I cannot shake the nagging question of "what man can find a broken woman sexy?" I can't be bubbly and cheerful all the time; I can only fake it for so long before I just flat out say "you know what? I feel miserable." I also know that guys my age want to be active -- dancing, hiking, traveling and yes, even sexing. And there are some days when that just isn't on the docket.
lemon, or as something fragile that can't be touched.
Doubt is the biggest detriment to self-confidence.
And even if I get past a few dates, I'm reminded of the orthopedist I saw in 2000 who gave me a pamphlet of how to have sex with a bad back. The drawings were of couples in their 60s. I don't want men to see me as past my prime, geriatric, or disabled. I don't want guys to think that I'm completely unable or without desire. While I don't have plans to swing from any chandeliers and hate being limited by my back, I'm still very much a woman in her sexual prime.
But for all the ways my injuries make me feel like less of a woman, there is an upside: it makes me able to appreciate the idea of having a man in my life. For as strong and independent as I am, it would be really nice to say "sweetie, I need help." Most men I know relish hearing those words -- they love knowing that their skills and strength can be put to use for manly purposes. Being injured exposes my vulnerability. I long for the time when the man I am with tries to heal me with kisses down my spine.
If I can't feel sexy on the inside, how will the world ever know that under all the blubber, there lies a sexpot?