Some of you on Twitter/Facebook already know that i became an aunt last Wednesday. Among all the well wishes were comments/questions about how/whether I will be spoiling my niece.
My answer is that I won't be spoiling my niece.
I will love and protect her, but I will not spoil her. I will teach and advise her (if/when asked and if/when appropriate) but I will not spoil her.
I will leave the spoiling to her grandparents, as is their hard-earned privilege. But I want to be the aunt she calls when she needs a confidant. I want to be the aunt that reminds her that her parents are people too.
But more than anything, I want to be the aunt that teaches her, by example, how to be awesome, healthy, and strong.
I will teach her how to throw a punch one day when she's much older, and how to make a proper cocktail when she's legal.
But I will not spoil her with food or toys, just all the love she can handle.
That's the kind of aunt (or as I want to be called, Tia) I want to be.
But I want to be a good role model for more than just my little niece. I want to be that for all the people in my family. I want them to see me chasing down the (long) life that eluded my mother (as well as maternal grandfather, paternal grandmother). I want them to live long, healthy, strong, and awesome lives.
But it starts with the commitment I've made to myself, and those promises I renew each and every day.
I'm 39 and have been overweight or obese since I was 8 years old. This is my journey to change not only my body but my relationship with it. And who knows, I might even meet some people on their own journeys along the way. To contact me privately, email me at FatGirlvsWorld@gmail.com