The Cinderella Story: Suffer hardships Have a great attitude Remain kind Karma Prevails The prince chooses you no matter what you wea...
"You're such an awesome chick." I can't tell you how often I hear this. or "I can't figure out why you're sin...
Seriously? I can. It's easy. Who wants to date the fat girl?
The ones who do usually have an agenda -- they either consider fat girls an easy mark, have a fat girl fetish, or don't think they can do any better.
It's a big surprise, I know, but fat girls have standards and won't just spread eagle for any guy that shows interest in her. And if they do, they shouldn't.
I'm single because I'm not willing to be someone's placeholder.
And I'm fat because goddamnit... I love food.
So the healthcare debate... My whole POV is that there are many preventable diseases (obesity, hypertension, diabetes in some cases) and w...
My whole POV is that there are many preventable diseases (obesity, hypertension, diabetes in some cases) and we should fix those things first because they are huge burdens on society and the health care industry.
--better access to healthy food (fuck the USDA and FDA)
--better access to healthy living conditions
--better access to basic health information (ie, don't let the pharmaceuticals supply all the information)
--better access to basic education (people tend to take better care of themselves the more education they have)
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY:
People who want to be healthy.
And the biggest part of that is how we're raised. We need healthy parents teaching kids how to become healthy adults.
Unfortunately, I didn't have this. My brother and I both think my mom was anorexic and an alcoholic. My father has always been obese. I can't remember my parents ever saying "Let's go take a walk" after dinner or anything remotely similar. What I do remember is how much they both smoked, how much my dad ate, how little my mom ate, how both of them didn't think to help me when I gained weight after my Nana died...
Before we tackle the problems of providing universal health care, perhaps we should tackle universal disease prevention (and creating electronic health databases).
Just my 2c.
I often fantasize about my skinny self -- the person that's hiding under all of this fat. Part of me wants to know her better. I've ...
That and if I were at a plastic surgeon's office, what would they tell me is wrong with me or what would they want to fix? Would they match up with what I'd want to fix? Would they even have the heart to tell me that underneath all the fat is a muscular, strong, beautiful woman?
See the thing is, I know it. I know who I am underneath all the fat.
It just takes longer for most people to see it.
I've been fat since I was 8 (I'm an emotional eater, I gained the weight after my Nana died and again after my mom died). Never ever...
There are girls out there with thighs that look barely larger than the circumference of my arms (14").
I would love to be able to wear a pretty dress and not worry about my thighs rubbing together, chafing, or having to wear something that prevents this (stockings, shorts, spanx, shorts, etc.).
[[July 13, 2010 Edit: I abandoned the whole thighs not touching thing after reading Crystal Renn's book, Hungry and just how much weight she had to lose before her thighs wouldn't touch.]]
I was musing about this the other day with a dear friend of mine (who has waged the fat war and won)... Women have a psycho/physiological ...
Women have a psycho/physiological need to be with another person. It affects our oxytocin levels. When we are with another person (in whatever context), our brains are stimulated with this wonderful drug that makes us feel happy. When we're alone, we don't get this oxytocin boost and we're more likely to be depressed.
But that's not what we chatted about.
It was the disparity between how people console fat girls when they say "I'm lonely."
We've found in our collective experience that when a thin girl (in our proximity, friends, coworkers, etc.) say "I'm lonely," the reaction is "Don't worry, you'll find someone."
When a fat/ugly girl says "I'm lonely," the reaction is "Maybe use this time to work on yourself" or "You should find happiness without a man."
Why the difference in the reaction? Why shouldn't the fat/ugly girl be consoled and comforted in a way that suggests her lonliness will end. Or does she have to be willing to change herself in order to be deemed worthy of another person's affection?
Have you seen it or heard about this? http://www.glamour.com/health-fitness/blogs/vitamin-g/2009/08/on-the-cl-the-picture-you-cant.html ht...
I'm so glad that there is a dialogue about women's body sizes in magazines. On one spot about the photo some guy said that (and I'm paraphrasing) "Women don't want to see that in a magazine. They want to see what they aspire to be." Seriously, Mr. Man?
Women come in all sizes and shapes and can still be HEALTHY. That's the key word. HEALTHY -- their physical health as well as their emotional and mental health.
There are naturally thin women, yes, but the majority of models that you see in magazines (except for sports/bikini magazines) have underweight BMIs. Are they healthy? Is that what we should aspire to be?